No Where To Go

More and more hockey parents and players seemingly have no where to go. This isn’t about options to play. They have no one to talk to, they have no where to go.

In the last week I have had several people reach out with genuine hockey questions and concerns. They are truly shocked when I reply.

I don’t know if I’m their last resort, but it’s an honour to meet with them all.

There are so many people in the hockey world that want honest advice about the direction, options and best course to take when it comes to their child and you know what you have to respect that.

There are so many options out there for players and parents to think about, but the window of opportunity for so many of them seems to be closing quicker than ever, or that’s how it feels to them.

I might sound like a broken record, but raw honest feedback these days in the hockey world is hard to come by.

These hockey parents and players feel all alone, left in the dark and confused when it comes to the feedback or lack there of that they are receiving.

It’s not about ice time or specialty teams, this is a player development issue.

Here’s an honest question. If programs are selling the fact that they are all about developing and maximizing exposure, then why aren’t they delivering on their promises? Why aren’t they being ultra transparent when it comes to providing constructive feedback?

Why do players and parents feel left in the dark?

I haven’t been in their situation as a parent, but as a player I went to ask my coaches what I needed to do to improve and get better.

Some of those conversations were hard, actually they were devastating, but they still happened and you know what my questions were answered.

Parents and players alike are so worried about being shafted that they don’t dare rock the boat.

You probably thinking, here’s Craig shitting on coaches again.

Believe what you want to believe, but what if it was your son or daughter? What if you felt they were left in the dark, not spoken to or no feedback being delivered?

Oh your tune might change at that point!

Sadly the hockey world has set these perimeters around transparency that need to be addressed.

I’m not picking sides in all of this, I’m trying to bring awareness to potentially really big problem.

You want to know why I write about the game, I want people to know that they aren’t alone and that others are experiencing the same things that they might be within the game.

The lack of transparency and honest feedback in the game is hurting everyone involved.

To the parents going through this, you’re not alone.

To the player going through this, you’re not alone.

To the coach that wants the best for the person and player, that is being transparent and providing feedback, your efforts jump off the page, you’re a step above everyone.

To the coach that might be hesitant to share their insight in fear of being called out by parents or not respected, take the next step, your integrity within the game will skyrocket.

To the coach that is stuck in your ways, it’s never too late to change. There’s a great coach and communicator inside you, you just have to trust it.

For the people out there that feel you have no where to go, reach out to a trusted hockey mind and don’t be shocked when they reply, it’s just their way to give back to the game they love.

See you at the rink,

One comment

  1. Thank you Craig, I feel this all too well. My 6 year old son was told he wasn’t good enough to take part in a practice and when we as parents asked why to the coach, he said it’s his opinion and others share the same opinion as him and that for asking him that question we’re now black listed in Hockey New Brunswick.


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